After failing before, I'm scared to try again

Miscarriages and failed IVF cycles aren’t just disappointing – they’re devastating. The combination of excitement, anticipation and hormones can set you up for a massive emotional crash when things don’t work out as hoped. It can even lead you to wonder how long it’s worth trying for, or even whether it’s worth it at all.

The facts and figures

If you’ve had the misfortune to miscarry or have a failed cycle, you’ll no doubt have been told how ‘common’ it is. But that knowledge doesn’t help much when you’re sitting there crushed and still not pregnant. Your lost embryo might not have been a baby, but that doesn’t mean you weren’t attached to it. No matter what anyone says, it’s okay to grieve.

If this is the first time you’ve miscarried or had a failed cycle, the odds are in your favour for future success. But if you’re still worried about trying again, or if it’s a recurrent thing, it’s a good idea to see your doctor to talk through the reasons behind the failure. There are some specific tests that might shed some light on why all this happened (and give you some peace of mind).

Statistics can be cold comfort

Even when you know the facts, it can be hard to face the prospect of losing another baby. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or unsure about what to do next, it can really help to talk to a counsellor. At Genea, it’s our job to help support people through fertility trials, whatever they entail – and you may just find a bit of TLC and perspective helps you see things in a better light. In fact a number of Genea Fertility Specialists actually specialise in miscarriage management so if retaining your pregnancy has been a recurring problem for you, if may be time to talk to an expert.  

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