I'm a guy, what can I do to help us have a baby?

Do you need more information about your fertility and the factors which might be stopping you from conceiving? At our free Fertility Seminars you can hear from a Specialist, ask questions and see the clinic for yourself. Or if you are ready to see a Specialist, check out how to get started through our four Simple steps.

Trying to conceive can be hard on a woman, but it has a huge impact on guys too. After all, chances are you’re waiting and hoping for this just as much as your partner – and while you want to be supportive, sometimes it’s hard to know what to do or say.

Let’s start by getting physical

A guy’s health and lifestyle can be a make or break factor in fertility. In fact in 40 per cent of cases where a couple has trouble conceiving, it’s a male fertility problem. To give your sperm the best shot, there are a few things you can do – for starters, quit smoking and stick to eight alcoholic drinks or less a week. If you take any prescription drugs, check with your GP if they could affect your fertility (and steer clear of any recreational ones).

Weight is also important, so try to eat well and maintain a healthy BMI. Testes need to be kept cooler than the rest of your body, so give saunas, spas and tight underwear a miss.

Get checked out

If you and your partner have been trying for 12 months (or six if your partner is over 35) with no luck, it’s worth seeing a Genea Fertility Specialist. As well as testing your partner’s fertility, they’ll check your sperm count, and see how well the little fellas are swimming. Sperm tests are a bit awkward, but it’s worth enduring.

And if there’s a problem? The best thing to do is be involved and find out what can be done about it. 

What about the emotional minefield?

In a way, the physical stuff is the easiest part of the fertility challenge. When emotions are running high, communication between men and women often isn’t at its finest. If you end up trying IVF, the hormones involved may cause upheaval with both of you! The important thing is to remember what you love about each other, and try to stay connected. Seeking help from a counsellor can be a great idea, or confiding in a close friend.

Trying to conceive may not be the ‘fun’ people told you it’d be, but you don’t have to go through it alone.

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